On Saturday I had the pleasure of going to GROW 2016 where Nancy Guthrie from Nashville was speaking to about 700 women from across South-east QLD. I’ll take the opportunity now to thank the ladies who organised the day, the wonderful worship band and sound people, and of course Nancy herself for sharing of herself so selflessly.
I’m still sifting through the emotional and spiritual turmoil from the day – and for me it was a roller coaster that had me exhausted that night. However, a friend asked me what I had taken away with me and this is what I am working on from the conference so far. The talks were based on the book of Job, and while there are so many wonderful lessons that can be taken Job, this is what is on my heart at the moment. Suffering is real and unavoidable. As much as we don’t like to think about it we all have times of pain, suffering and anguish. Unfortunately, whether we believe in God or not, whether we like to admit it or not, very often we are the cause of our own suffering. Or maybe that bit is just me. When I think of my past, and present, I recognise that a lot of what has caused myself and others pain has been through my own choices. Our decisions, or choosing not to make a decision, have consequences for ourselves and those around us; sometimes for people we don’t even know. A lot of the mistakes and pain in my life have their origins in a series of very foolish decisions I made when I was in my late teens. The lessons that I should have learnt then about my worth to God, having self respect, being vulnerable and brave enough to be different are only truly happening for me now. I am still making mistakes, I am still hiding in my comfort zones and I am still kicking myself for the things I say and do. I am still learning and it is turning out to a long-winded and painful process with many mistakes along the way.
In the same way that our choices affect others, the choices that others have made then in turn impact us. How many times have we learnt of those we care about being injured by another driver or someone under the influence, to name a few scenarios. Of course when you compound the choices that people have made for hundreds of years then you also have the consequences of these. Nancy herself spoke about this as being the background behind her family’s painful story with the very genes themselves being influenced.
Let me make this absolutely clear – the hard things in life that we face are not a punishment from God for the things we have done. God does not cause suffering. He may allow it and if we let him then he can use it in wonderful ways but blaming God for the things that go wrong is fruitless. Suffering can make us lose faith and question everything but let me point out that there is nothing wrong with questions and this can be an extremely helpful process. Suffering however can also make our faith stronger as those questions and searching bring us closer to God. I have seen for myself friends go through terrible loss and depression but then I have also seen how they have been able to use these experiences in the most incredible ways to help other people. I pray that I would be brave enough to use my own experiences to comfort others going through similar circumstances. I agree that not passing on the compassion, lessons and coping mechanisms would be a real waste of my pain but it does take courage to step up and feel that pain again. Let me be the one of the first to offer love and support to those facing separation, divorce and the pain of spouses who have different moral standards. Let me be there for those who struggle with how to share with their children honestly and respectfully. Let me be a help to those who are trying to figure out how to pick up the pieces of themselves, to discover who they are meant to be and gain the courage to live life again. I don’t have the answers, I am working it out just as you are; let us do it together with our Father as our guide.